Engage With Me
Trust & Vulnerability
Every encounter is a personalized journey into the art of power dynamics, crafted to align with both mine and your desires and boundaries. From sensual exploration to role-play scenarios, our sessions are guided by mutual trust and discretion. We ensure a safe, consensual, and unforgettable experience in which you can indulge in your deepest fantasies under the careful guidance of an experienced and empathetic Dominatrix.
Let’s Indulge
Two-Hour Session:
- €750
- Additional Hours: €200 per hour
Dinner & Play – Infusing layers of intensity and exploration:
- €900 (Approx. 4 Hours)
If you choose not to provide a venue, I’ll arrange a discreet and comfortable hotel room for our encounters. The fee is €150.
Fly Me to You (FMTY):
Elevate your experience by bringing my captivating presence to your desired location. Costs vary depending on distance and travel time. A base rate of €300, with additional charges based on the cost of the train ticket, and travel time.
Interested in remote play, findom, or even an FLR? I’m more than open to that. More details are available upon request after a deposit has been made.
Dive Deeper: Want to book me for a Conscious Kink workshop or an Intimacy Photography shooting? Details upon concrete request.
Terms & Conditions
Respect and boundaries
This space is curated with the intention of fostering a journey that is not only consensual but one that deeply honors the energy and time we invest.
Communication Guidelines: To ensure clarity and a shared understanding, after a deposit has been paid, you will receive a thoughtful questionnaire.
Clear and Respectful Messages: Communication is an art, and I value messages that are clear, forthcoming, and mindful. While I won’t engage in sending pictures or phone calls before our encounter, trust that my calm, beautiful voice will guide you when the time is right.
My Boundaries: As a classical dominatrix, I embrace a dynamic where touch and close proximity, along with discipline, play integral roles. However, while intimate touches are a part of our exchange, they are reserved for me to offer, never the other way around. My space remains sacred, and I remain untouchable in that sense, allowing for deep connection within carefully respected boundaries. I adhere to my unique style, including clothing choices. However, while I follow a vegan lifestyle, I’m open to using provided leather and latex if it aligns with your preferences. I do not engage in any medical practices, breath play or activities involving needles, or shibari; it’s not within my expertise.
Transaction Details
To ensure a secure arrangement, I request a partial fee and full travel expenses in advance.
Booking Information: When making a date request, include: Location, Time, Duration of the appointment, (roughly) Preferences or Desires to explore.
Cancellation Policy: For cancellations made with at least 48 hours’ notice, the deposit remains valid for the next date within two months. Cancellations within 48 hours of the appointment result in forfeiture of the deposit.
Payment: For the deposit, I accept a voucher of my choice.
Include the code word “Dragon Fruit” in your first message to confirm you’ve read and understood my terms and conditions.
Personalized Care: Acknowledging that individuals vary in their levels of shyness or introversion, I maintain an empathetic approach to ensure a comfortable and respectful experience for you. It’s important to note that I deliberately limit the number of clients I accept.
Contact Me
Current location
Travelling Europe.
before contact
Familiarize yourself with my Terms and Conditions first.
connect
gillian@youareinmyfocus.com
FAQ
What type of training or certifications do you have as a Dominatrix?
My formal training took place at the Berliner Lux-Studio under the guidance of experienced Dominatrixes. However, my journey as a Lifestyle Domme started much earlier. Fueled by my interest in erotic hypnosis and mind games, I discovered a passion for control, care, and sadism. Continuous growth comes from workshops, immersive experiences, extensive readings (gosh, I love books!), and of course, from living the lifestyle itself.
Can you accommodate special requests or custom scenarios during a session?
Absolutely! I thrive on curiosity and playful exploration within BDSM. Open-minded and eager for new experiences within legal and possible bounds, I craft sessions that resonate with individual desires. It’s essential to emphasize: I follow my distinct style and instincts.
Can you accommodate individuals with disabilities or special needs?
Certainly! I am more than willing to accommodate individuals with disabilities or special needs. Ensuring a comfortable and accessible experience for everyone is a priority.
Do you have experience playing with people of diverse backgrounds, orientations, and genders?
Indeed, I have experience playing with people of diverse backgrounds, orientations, and genders. Yet, it’s crucial to understand that continual learning is inherent. Being pansexual, delving into various languages, exploring diverse cultures, and addressing classism are aspects of my journey. It’s a reminder that each person enters a session with a unique narrative, and fostering open communication is paramount in navigating this nuanced terrain.
How do you handle potential triggers or sensitive topics that may arise during a session?
There’s no one-size-fits-all response to handling potential triggers or sensitive topics during a session. My background in trauma-informed negotiation equips me to approach such situations with the respect they demand. While BDSM inherently involves risks, we enter into these dynamics knowingly. Alongside my experience and competence, I emphasize the importance of building trust and jointly managing difficult situations. I’m your Domme and kinky facilitator, but you also carry responsibility for yourself.
Can you recommend resources for individuals interested in learning more about BDSM and kink on their own?
As you can see, my website is still “under construction.” Soon, my blog will be launched, featuring book reviews, workshop tips, event recommendations, and various other resources for individuals eager to explore BDSM and kink on their own. Stay tuned.
What is your approach to aftercare following a session?
I’m pleased you’re bringing this up, sweet one! Aftercare holds a special place in my heart. Whether you find comfort in my embrace, shedding tears, or we engage in a discussion about Bach and your favorite city, it’s a deeply personal and individual experience, just like a session and our connection. In any case, I conduct a check-in the next day and remain available for a post-session conversation even days later. We’re not machines, and the profound emotions of a BDSM session deserve thoughtful consideration.